Parenting in Action: Real Moments with My Children
I don't just teach parenting; I live it every single day. Here is a glimpse into our home—the messy, wonderful, and chaotic moments where my children teach me more than any textbook ever could.
My daughter, our "Youngest Home Manager," taking her job of quality control very seriously. This short video is a perfect example of my belief in involving children in everyday tasks. Trust them deeply and they will surprise you with their capability.
My twin sons are now teenagers, and it's a blessing to watch them grow. This video captures a candid moment of them together. Every day, they teach me something new about life and about myself.
My daughter showing us her meditation pose. It's important to acknowledge and praise good behavior, not just correct the bad. This photo is a reminder to celebrate our children's efforts and positive actions, which builds their confidence and emotional intelligence.
A selfie with my twin sons and another with my daughter. When a child says "I hate you," it's often a cry for help. This post discusses how to handle these crisis moments with positive discipline, by looking beyond the words to the underlying emotion.
A Sunday at home with my daughter. She proudly shows off her drawings of me and my wife. She says my head looks like a pumpkin, and I am a pumpkin. It's these playful, loving moments that are the true treasures of fatherhood.
My daughter sharing a sweet message after our family game night. Spending quality time together, like playing Jenga after dinner, is how we build strong bonds and create lasting memories.
My daughter learning gymnastics. It's amazing to see her building agility and flexibility. As parents, our role is to provide opportunities for our children to explore their interests and discover their passions.
A game of giant chess with my daughter and wife. Play is one of the most powerful ways for children to learn about strategy, patience, and sportsmanship. These are the small, happy moments that build a strong family.
My five year old daughter taking horse riding lessons. Beyond learning to ride, she is absorbing life lessons in courage, balance, and connecting with animals, all by herself.
My little rider, just one month into her lessons. At five years old, she is already learning to be confident and independent in the big arena. It's a proud father moment.
About Parenting in Action: Moments with My Children
You will notice that I involve my daughter in tasks like organizing the fridge or managing simple household decisions. This is not just play; it is the core of conscious parenting. By trusting your child with real responsibilities and praising their effort rather than just their achievements, you build their confidence and emotional intelligence. It is not about being a perfect parent, but about being a present one who views everyday chaos as a shared classroom.
Why I Share These Moments
Many parents ask me, 'How do you handle teenage attitudes?' or 'How do I get my toddler to listen?' The photos here aren't just snapshots; they are proof of my philosophy in practice. Whether it is a game of chess, horse riding, or simply drawing, these moments define my approach. They show that building a bond is more effective than implementing a rigid discipline structure.
The 'Unschooling' Philosophy
When we took our children out of the traditional school system after grade 5, people asked, 'Ab kya karoge?' (What will you do?). We didn't stop educating them; we changed how we defined it. We chose 'Universe-Schooling'. This cluster highlights that real-world exposure—learning responsibility in the kitchen, patience on a horse, or resilience during sports—is where true growth happens. I help parents integrate these real-life learning opportunities into their own schedules.
Moving Beyond Crisis Management
Parenting is often reactive. You wait for a tantrum, then you react. I want to help you shift to a proactive stance.
- Acknowledge, Don't Correct: When a child acts out, they are often expressing an unmet need. If you look at the 'fridge moments' or our game nights, you see a focus on connection.
- NLP and Psychological Framing: I use these tools in my coaching sessions to help you decode what your child is saying when they are too frustrated to use words.
- Communication Protocols: Stop lecturing. Start communicating. My sessions focus on the specific language you need to de-escalate conflicts before they turn into full-blown emotional battles.
If you are feeling overwhelmed, you are not alone. My work in Bengaluru is centered on helping parents like you find clarity, resolve behavioral issues, and reconnect with your children.
Abhishek Pasari
I am Dr. Abhishek Pasari. My perspective on parenting shifted the day we decided to unschool our children to prioritize their emotional growth over grades. Now, I use that lived experience, combined with psychological tools, to help families in Bengaluru move past behavioral conflicts and build genuine connection.
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