--- title: "Real Talk: Ditch Mom Guilt & Build Strength with Mrinalini" description: "Motherhood is messy, not a photoshoot. Join Mrinalini for real talk on postpartum recovery, managing mom guilt, and building sustainable strength for the long haul. No BS, just support for busy moms." canonical: https://mytribe.in/fit.with.coach.m/pre-postnatal-fitness-coaching/real-talk-the-messy-truth-of-motherhood last_updated: 2025-08-31 --- # Let's Get Real: Motherhood, Guilt, and Finding Your Balance Tribe Verified · Supporting thousands of moms across India By [Mrinalini Bakshi Sengupta](https://mytribe.in/fit.with.coach.m) · Online across India & sessions across Bengaluru · ₹5,000 Per Month (estimate) Part of [Pre & Postnatal Fitness Coaching](https://mytribe.in/fit.with.coach.m/pre-postnatal-fitness-coaching). [View full gallery](https://mytribe.in/fit.with.coach.m/pre-postnatal-fitness-coaching/gallery) Motherhood is messy, exhausting, and beautiful. Let's drop the act, ditch the 'bounce back' pressure, and talk about the hard stuff, the mom guilt, and how to actually prioritize yourself. ## Photos and videos - [Video: I wish someone had told me these five things when I became a new mom. Baby blues are real, routines are unpredictable, and motherhood can be incredibly isolating. Give yourself grace. You are not broken, and you are doing an amazing job.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/8dbd7346-c3c5-486b-b0aa-1ba8063cc428) - [Video: Let's talk about mom guilt. It's a real, human emotion that hits you when you feel like you're failing to meet the impossible standards in your own head. Feeling guilty doesn't mean you're a bad mom; it means you're a good mom who wants to do right by your child.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/5699820f-c20c-45d4-9f10-1090d3758f02) - [Video: Welcome to my TED Talk on how exhausting a developmental milestone can be. My daughter is going through a regression, and I am at the end of my tether. Yesterday involved non-stop meltdowns, and I'm not proud to say I lost my shit. I'm just really, really tired.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/5c34855b-82c3-4491-b7b7-06e68148737f) - [Video: To all the mamas who wake up before the sun to work on themselves, remember this: it takes a special kind of strength to choose a workout over rest when you're already exhausted. You are a different breed.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/9b340876-69a5-453c-afc5-7dda6d108ade) - [Video: Exercise should never be a punishment. Telling young girls they have to look a certain way to be "fit" creates body dysmorphia and eating disorders. As a mother to a daughter, I believe we need to change this narrative. Fitness is a way of life, not an aesthetic.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/00c48f33-f78b-42f5-a044-0ffa8328d6c5) - [Video: The next time someone gives you unsolicited feedback about "losing the baby weight," remind yourself that you grew a whole human. Your body is amazing. Also, remind yourself that punching them might land you in jail, and your baby needs you.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/bf63711e-96b8-4962-8d98-72bdbfe87174) - [Video: Send this to a mom who needs a reminder: you don't need to focus on perfect, you just need to focus on progress. There is no perfect time to start. Just show up, and soon you will find your rhythm.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/129c5238-3280-4a2f-ba57-bcba7363dcfd) - ![Unpopular truth: mom fitness influencers who claim to have "bounced back" in 4 months are not telling you the whole story. Don't get caught up in what you see on social media. Normalize taking your time to find your strength again.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/64ac7fdc-bb5c-45a5-8b62-f87937361927) - [Video: This Women's Day, I'm talking to the men. If you want your partner to be fit, what are you doing to help her make the time? I am where I am because I have the support of my husband. Enable and support the women in your life.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/b11ace34-4333-4265-813d-6cd1b2cb5f1a) - [Video: How you talk to yourself matters. It changes the way you think, the way you approach situations, and how others behave with you. Are you talking yourself up or down? Your self-talk can change everything.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/0c501e0b-0f2f-4899-8423-33641808fcd2) - [Video: I wish more moms knew that taking 35-45 minutes out of the day for themselves makes them happier, calmer moms. You can't pour from an empty cup. Exercise creates endorphins, and endorphins make you happy.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/8047257c-9bdb-4f27-832f-d022571624e7) - [Video: I don't take pre-workout or even much coffee anymore. As a mom, my brain is always "on," and caffeine just took my anxiety to another level. I was jittery and couldn't sleep even when I was bone-tired. Cutting it out helped me find more calm.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/a24333ed-3307-42fd-b632-319eaaae60b5) - [Video: While recording this workout, I saw my skin folding and rolling and my first thought was to reshoot from a better angle. But then I remembered what I tell my clients: skin is meant to fold. It's normal. You can be strong, fit, and human all at the same time.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/e1020430-faea-49c1-a034-252290d2b7df) - [Video: Who else can relate? I love that I'm my daughter's safe space, but sometimes I would just like to pee by myself. Or sit for five minutes without a tiny human attached to me. It's okay to feel both.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/85a1e500-5583-49a0-b3c7-2fa353b8dbf9) - [Video: This is a joke, but let's get real. If you need therapy, please prioritize it. Motherhood, especially in the first year, can be incredibly lonely and isolating. It is okay to get help. Your mental health is important.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/cfe37da4-ca74-41f4-a9fe-b0e2b95604cb) - [Video: The "threenager" phase is kicking my butt. Terrible twos have nothing on this. I used to be good at regulating my emotions, but now it's becoming exceedingly hard. To the mamas who have been through this, send help!](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/fb8e9149-a0bb-4a9c-8af5-6b09ddc7caed) - [Video: The eyes, Chico, they never lie. This is me going from gentle parent to old-school Indian mom in seconds with just a look. I didn't think I'd get here, but this threenager is testing me.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/482608d2-ed30-4be4-b252-36690dbb2110) - [Video: I'm so over the "Moms are Superhuman" narrative. Let's stop glorifying motherhood and normalize that it's hard. We are not superhumans; we are overworked, overstimulated, and overwhelmed. It's okay to ask for help and prioritize yourself.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/838c2f16-3a56-49dc-915a-5b04392d9389) - [Video: I'm tired of young influencers talking about their blissful 10 hours of sleep. I haven't had that in 3 years. For new moms, unrealistic targets like 10k steps and 8 hours of sleep are just stupid. Mamas, mute that noise and go on with your life.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/20927ebc-3c1b-40aa-b98c-136db09e5ced) - [Video: Let's talk about the invisible load of motherhood. It's the hundred tabs open in your brain at all times. To all my mamas, I see you. You are doing enough. Some days are great, some are bullshit, and that's absolutely fine.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/74b8842a-0855-4467-834f-210cb1076a13) - [Video: My ego is shattered. I have to eat balanced meals and work out consistently to have energy, but my toddler can run laps around me powered by a cat nap and some chocolate stars. Make it make sense.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/94d6e2c4-fd6b-4891-acef-62929929da1b) - [Video: This is your sign to do the two most important things for yourself, mamas: draw those damn boundaries, and work on your core and pelvic floor health. I can help you with the second one, and my amazing community of moms can help you with the first.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/8b9e0a63-27ff-4c01-8062-fe3cccadd7c4) - [Video: Instagram is a curated reflection. It's absolutely normal to have loose skin, jiggles, and cellulite after having a baby. Normalize being strong AND having loose skin in the same sentence. Your body is different now. Own it.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/5513b725-ba9f-4dc4-bd2f-9f43ed7c2c36) - [Video: What's the hardest boundary you've had to hold after becoming a mom? It's time we unite. I'm here for holding firm boundaries, prioritizing our mental and physical health, and having no time for bullshit.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/370c09dd-aa5e-4e75-a5c0-7a4cecbafeac) - [Video: This is my "why." I exercise and lift weights so I can carry my daughter on our adventures for as long as possible. I want her to know her mama is strong and ready to explore the world with her.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/b4e1f591-4b3a-4f00-8bc9-4b50140850c4) - [Video: You can be flexed and have abs, and the same body can have rolls and jiggle. What you see on Instagram is mostly good lighting and angles. My body is way different from my pre-pregnancy body, and I have made peace with it.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/14a31e0e-8788-4950-8ddc-6fdeb9d5d584) - [Video: I don't miss my pre-kid life, except for being able to just relax on a couch and drink my tea in peace. I know these days are fleeting, but it's okay to want both the cuddles and the quiet. Both feelings are valid.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/c4627900-ac7a-4487-a096-8ac12cdecc61) - [Video: The biggest part of motherhood is learning to unlearn your triggers. It's realizing that I can't control my emotions when my daughter has a meltdown, yet I expect her to control hers. Motherhood is so damn hard.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/7c0589d6-2b0b-4b87-8aa9-6d9f03d19368) - [Video: This is how mothers everywhere hold it all together: raising a kid, building a career, and focusing on self-care. We just do, somehow. Happy Mother's Day to all the moms out there. You are doing great.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/47b9a619-20cd-40c2-846a-85e96b803250) - [Video: This is our anthem. The road to finding your strength postpartum is long, but it's one of the most powerful journeys you'll undertake. Show up for yourself, bit by bit, and you will see the difference.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/d9eba495-c77a-41d3-b86d-69d3693a053f) - [Video: This is your reminder that motherhood does not mean your life comes to a stop. This is your era to find your mom strength and write your new story. If I can do this sleep-deprived and exhausted, I can do anything.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/d84ed900-e956-4301-bc49-c3b4e0749603) - [Video: You are not running out of time. To anyone dealing with an injury or a hard patch as a new mom, you will feel like yourself again. It doesn't seem like it today, but you will. Just show up for yourself when you can.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/75dc39ac-6bee-4e0c-b584-967859b56b57) - [Video: I'm not building a "summer body." I'm building a body that's going to last me through all the seasons of life. This body has stretch marks, cellulite, and muscle. It's a battle-ready body that will carry me through life.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/6dc5b152-d06b-4e3c-887d-f26ce4bcaea8) - [Video: Here are 5 truths about working out as a parent. You'll be interrupted, you'll be tired, but you are also your child's hero. How you speak to yourself about fitness forms their opinion as well. They don't care about the scale; they care that you're present.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/eea23c3c-4fa0-4e80-8c8a-2ad7f532ab5c) - [Video: Motherhood is beautiful, but let's be real, it's also filled with societal judgment, hormonal changes, constant sickness, anxiety, and sleep deprivation. But then your baby says "I love you," and it's all worth it. It's a journey.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/1a484c4b-2284-4b34-b80d-7e3d445409af) - [Video: Not much has changed. My weighted vest just keeps getting heavier. I'm not complaining, because it just means I have to get stronger.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/7b217a7a-12ce-4d30-ab9e-fe1500a650bb) - [Video: Mama, the first year is tough. You'll be exhausted. But these are the days you need to show up for yourself even more. Just 30-40 minutes of movement can make all the difference. You've got this.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/ceb5b60c-a4b7-4c3b-b404-93acda6f5fff) - [Video: I've met too many mamas who've been pushed into rigorous training too soon by coaches who don't understand the postpartum body. Unrealistic targets are stupid and harmful. I'm here to offer a slow, steady, and sane approach.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/5b212e8c-75b3-434e-ae12-68d676b806c8) - [Video: When you realize strong bodies don't just mean sporting a six-pack. It took me years to unlearn a toxic relationship with food and comparison. Now I know that being a mother who is working on her health is what makes me strong.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/b654c11e-0343-4727-8516-562022fd0384) - [Video: When you realize you'll be okay as a mom. You just needed a nap and a hug from your number one cheerleader. Your child isn't looking for a perfect mother, just her mother. And that is enough.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/03e944e9-bd00-4fd8-834c-eddc1bed0c49) - [Video: If you're looking for a page that keeps it real, you've come to the right place. It took me 2.5 years to get where I am today. Don't let anyone tell you it's not possible, but also don't compare your journey to anyone else's.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/62815e9d-356b-4c6b-9847-d9b90c226cd1) - [Video: You are not alone, mama. I know it's overwhelming and chaotic. But you owe it to yourself to find one hour in your day to do something for you. It doesn't have to be the gym, but you need to make time for yourself.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/3aaa3b91-1ed4-4141-9e24-e47799da1064) - [Video: To the influencers telling new moms to get 7-9 hours of sleep and walk 10,000 steps: what are you talking about? We need coaches who are kind, rational, and understand what we're actually going through. If you're spewing this stupidity, just get out of our faces.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/0e9e2639-fd56-4e6e-9691-6a0e56d4f394) - [Video: There is no luck. It is patience, discipline, consistency, time, nutrition, and progressive overload. You're in it for the long run, mamas. Think marathon, not a sprint. Stick with it, and you will reap the benefits.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/1422b41b-dbdb-4b77-a30f-240ccf032996) - [Video: It's important for mamas to fill their own cup, because you can't pour from an empty one. Your kids are watching how you prioritize your health. Lead by example and show them that taking time for yourself is important.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/2ad922a0-809e-40ca-b791-3ec3a54439f3) - [Video: Behind every mom lifting weights is a journey. Instead of thinking you've "lost yourself," reframe it: you are on a journey of finding your new strength so you can be a present mama for your baby. Mindset and intention matter.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/07c06f44-69cf-4ede-90df-3d3a82e3e2fa) - [Video: No one tells you that the biggest growth you witness when you become a mom is your own. You're not just watching your child grow; you're watching yourself grow. You're learning patience, kindness, and unlearning past habits.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/18adf0ae-5ba9-48d7-a3b7-2debe123ace5) - [Video: You are always being watched. It's so important for your kids to see exercise as a way of life, not as a punishment for eating cake. Change the way you look at exercise, and they will too.](https://assets.mytribe.in/insecure/raw:1/plain/s3://mytribe-assets-production/f8d4b841-e819-4412-9e33-b6700a718200) ## About Real Talk: The Messy Truth of Motherhood You don't need another generic post telling you to 'sleep when the baby sleeps.' Let's be honest: that is usually impossible. When you are in the thick of it, the only thing that actually helps is knowing you are not failing, you are just human. My approach is about finding those 35 to 45 minutes not as a luxury, but as the basic maintenance required to keep your head above water when the meltdowns feel relentless. The fitness industry loves to sell you a timeline. They promise you will 'bounce back' in six weeks, or that if you just do these three crunches, your 'mommy pooch' will vanish. It is all absolute rubbish. Your body just grew a human being. It went through labor, massive hormonal shifts, and likely a severe sleep deficit. Expecting it to snap back like a rubber band is not just unrealistic, it is unkind to yourself. ### My Philosophy: Fitness for Life My approach is simple: fitness is not a reward for your looks, it is a tool for your life. When I talk about strength training for moms, I am not talking about getting a six-pack. I am talking about having the physical capacity to carry a toddler on one hip while carrying the groceries in the other. I am talking about pelvic floor health so you can sneeze without fear, and core stability so you can wake up without back pain. ### The Mental Load When we talk about fitness in this group, we are also talking about the mental load. That constant 'on' switch in your brain that thinks about school events, meals, and nap times? Exercise is often the only time that noise finally stops. It creates the endorphins that actually make you a calmer, more present parent. If you are struggling with the guilt of taking time for yourself, remember this: you are teaching your child that their mother is a whole person with needs of her own. That is not selfish, it is necessary. Whether you are dealing with postpartum anxiety, the isolation of the first year, or just the pure, unfiltered exhaustion of toddlerhood, you are not doing it wrong. You are just doing the hard work of being a parent. Let's find your rhythm together. ## About Mrinalini Bakshi Sengupta I became the coach I wish I had during my own postpartum struggle. I am not here to sell you perfection, just real support to help you feel strong and sane again. 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